Approaching a man at a bar, Seyi Kolade had
only one thing on her mind as she chatted with the stranger - sex.
Within hours the pair were in bed together and she was delighted at how her
evening had panned out.
And this was not a chance encounter, for Seyi was a sex addict and it was what she did almost every day for 13 years. Last night she said: “Sex addiction took hold of my life.”
Seyi, 35, was just 17 when she became dependent on sleeping with men. By 19 she'd had 40 partners and she says she has bedded a shocking total of 370 men.
Her dangerous addiction led her to a life of destruction - catching sexually transmitted infections, being evicted from her home and having two terminations.
And this was not a chance encounter, for Seyi was a sex addict and it was what she did almost every day for 13 years. Last night she said: “Sex addiction took hold of my life.”
Seyi, 35, was just 17 when she became dependent on sleeping with men. By 19 she'd had 40 partners and she says she has bedded a shocking total of 370 men.
Her dangerous addiction led her to a life of destruction - catching sexually transmitted infections, being evicted from her home and having two terminations.
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By the age of 30, Seyi
had hit rock bottom and needed help. Today, after attending numerous sex
addiction meetings and 12-step programmes, Seyi has been celibate for four
years and is helping others like her.
She explains says:
“Sex addiction is something people associate with men, but it took hold of my
life for more than 13 years.
“It was a craving and
a fear of how I’d feel if I couldn’t get it.
“Once I did, it was a
huge relief, like a weight was lifted.
“It’s like any
addiction. It made me selfish, self-destructive and depressed but it was a
cycle I couldn’t escape.”
She adds: “I lost my
virginity when I was 13 with my first boyfriend.
“I was shocked when I
fell pregnant. I gave birth when I was 14. It was a very difficult time.”
Social services
arranged a nanny to look after her daughter, Sarah, from six weeks old.
Being a young mum
scarred Seyi’s childhood. She says: “I moved out of home when I was 16 with
Sarah and lived in a mother and baby unit. I felt terribly lonely. I craved
affection, I was miserable.”